The few minutes I let my sweet baby "cry it out" were the longest few minutes.of.my.life. How could something that is so "normal" feel so incredibly wrong? This was certainly not a relaxing atmosphere to get some rest, instead i became more tense and couldn't take it anymore, I ran into her room and scooped her up and consoled her.
Having her near felt "right". Not only did it comfort her, but it comforted me. We were so close for so long (the nine months while she was in my womb) it didn't feel natural to let her face the world by herself, she wanted to be by me and I wanted to be by her. So I held her close and nursed her to sleep in my bed; and shortly after I fell asleep too. After some great rest we were both refreshed and happy. It felt, natural, and "right".
Who ever said that babies should sleep through the night? They aren't built that way. It is something that should be an easy transision, and until then, be there for your baby to comfort them when they do wake at night. It can be hard to find support out there that encourages you to follow your natural instincts, and was so relieved when I came across , 'Nighttime Parenting: How to get your baby and child to sleep’ by William Sears (La Leche League International book)
I loved this book. In a society that is bombarded with "independence" and early separation, it was so reassuring to know that it's ok to co-sleep. "Nighttime Parenting" by Dr. Sears is such an awesome resource for moms with newborns. Co sleeping with your baby isn't going to spoil them or create bad sleep habit, if anything it helps you sleep better and helps you create a stronger bond. Treasure these sweet moments while you can because they won't be babies forever. And for the record, my 7 year old sleeps peacefully and happily in her own bed now:)
So if you are a new mom, mom to be, or just supportive of natural parenting, give this book a read.
*Please note, I only recommend safely co-sleeping, which is easlily acheivable for mom's who breastfeed.
Awesome!Kelly, when Aaron was born, his dad slept on the floor next to the cradle every night. We soothed him back to sleep and were dead tired, but so happy!
ReplyDeleteIve always hated to hear people tell me to "just let him cry it out" We slept in the same bed for the first 9 or 10 months. Then i started to let him sleep in his own crib. And despite what every one always told me, even the doctor, (get the kid out of your bed before 3 months or they'll never sleep in their own bed.) He did good with the transition. And even now at 3 years we still like to sleep together sometimes. I don't see whats wrong with it, it make him feel safe and I don't have to hear him "cry it out" for the next hour. I don't believe its a good thing to have a child cry them self's to sleep. Its mean, and it doesn't make me feel like a good parent.
ReplyDelete~Misty